• Mental Health & Well Being,  Other Side of 40,  Uncategorized

    Enjoying the quietness of a Midwest winter.

    Life is the midwest is not for the faint of heart, y’ all! It’s tough, hard to deal with, very cold and involves lots of snow and ice. Having grown up in the South, most of my experiences with winter are pretty mild. I wouldn’t even call it “winter” there. 60 degrees and above is not what I describe as winter. It’s all relative, however. This winter in Iowa was just brutal. Locals told me that it was one of the worst winters on record. Awesome! after spending a year back in Louisiana weather, it was going to be a tough winter already. I’m not one who likes to sit…

  • Celebrating Freedom in 2019
    Marriage and Relationships,  Other Side of 40

    FREEDOM in 2019

    It’s been a long time since I’ve found the inspiration to write. Probably at least 18 months. What can I say? Actually, it was the trials and tribulations of life that got in the way of my inspiration to write about my life. I’ve always been honest about my life, and this time in my life is no different. We are NOT a Pinterest, Social Media Perfect, family. As many friends and family members know, 2018 was a trying year. In fact, it was probably the most difficult year I’ve experienced as an adult. There was lots of loss, the death of my stepmom Carol, grief, secrets revealed, changes around every…

  • Aging Parents,  Cancer Sucks

    Cancer Sucks: Pancreatic Cancer Awareness Day

    As I have mentioned before here on the blog and on my Facebook page, Cancer has entered our lives and is not leaving anytime soon. First of all, this post is not about me. This past July, my step-mother Carol was diagnosed with Pancreatic Cancer, Stage 4. She had been not feeling well for several months. It didn’t come as a shock that something was wrong, we just didn’t expect it to be cancer or the stage it was in. Unfortunately, this is not the first time this particular cancer  has affected my family. In 2004, my father-in-law, Bob, passed away from Pancreatic Cancer and COPD. It is quick, horrible…

  • Marriage and Relationships,  Other Side of 40

    10 ideas to reconnect with your spouse

    In the last year , 3 different friends  have announced that they were divorcing their spouses after 20+ years of marriage. Let me just say… these couples appeared to be rock-solid. They were the type of couples that everyone wanted to be like.  It was shocking to read/hear that their relationships were coming to an  end. I was talking to my friend, Melissa, about her situation. She said, I’m not really sure what happened. Everything seemed fine until Gabby graduated. One day, I woke up and realized things were very different between us. I didn’t really know who either of us were.  ” After 6 months of trying to fix their…

  • Just My Opinion,  Other Side of 40,  Parenting

    Getting Ready for Act II of Life

    As our family races toward another chapter in this adventure called life, I can’t help but think back to all the other “chapters” and how those began.  Mostly I think of the different versions of myself I’ve created over the years: Teenage Me, College Me, Married and Mama Me. Everyone and everything changes. We have to in order to survive, adapt to our circumstances and live our life. I remember being a teenager imagining of what my life would be like when I was 40-something. It is quite different I assure you. Sure, I knew I’d be married with children, dogs and other responsibilities. However, the way/how  my life would evolve…