Just My Opinion,  Other Side of 40,  Parenting

Getting Ready for Act II of Life

As our family races toward another chapter in this adventure called life, I can’t help but think back to all the other “chapters” and how those began.  Mostly I think of the different versions of myself I’ve created over the years: Teenage Me, College Me, Married and Mama Me.

Everyone and everything changes.

We have to in order to survive, adapt to our circumstances and live our life.

I remember being a teenager imagining of what my life would be like when I was 40-something. It is quite different I assure you. Sure, I knew I’d be married with children, dogs and other responsibilities. However, the way/how  my life would evolve is drastically different. I could never imagine all of the people and places that I have had the pleasure of knowing and the things that I would do.

I can’t help but stop to say thank you for my  amazing, chaotic  and wonderful life. I’ve been proud and honored to been given the roles of wife and mother.

New beginnings are a natural part of life as we change and adapt. This chapter feels different. This feels more like Act II of my life. I’ll get to live out a different part of my life.

The days of “24/7 parenting” are quickly coming to a close. These days, it is more about guidance and advice (along with the occasional teenager attitude adjustment). They don’t need me as much for the day to day and I’m completely ok with that.

I know of many women my age are getting ready to head into this Second Act of life. Some are fearful yet brave of what is to come. Some are excited and some are dreading it, kicking and screaming the whole way.

Before my oldest graduated high school, I was in the Kicking and screaming (and crying) boat.  I didn’t want to face the fact that I was getting older and I don’t have babies any more. I made it through the other side and I”m no worse for wear. In fact, I learned a few things about my self.

The whole goal of having children is to one day have them leave the nest and start their own adventure. While I’m a little sad that my youngest child is in her last years of school, I’m excited at what the future holds for her, our family and myself.

Right now , this is our Intermission. We are getting ready for Act II. We are taking a break, pausing and getting prepared for the next act in the musical of Life.

I know it won’t be anything like I think it will be. There will be curve balls, high peaks and low valleys. It will be filled with more hormonal changes, an empty nest, and hopefully lots more adventure and laughter.

I’m in the process of reinventing my new self of this next phase of life. I won’t be known anymore as Beck’s mom, teenager wrangler, or Stage Mom for much longer. I’ll cherish these last few years of these wonderful titles I’ve been giving.

If you are in the same boat as me, give yourself permission. Permission to do all the things you’ve put on the back burner because you were busy raising your children. Go back to school, start a business, take that trip, run that marathon… the list goes on and on.

I look at it like this… This is OUR TIME. The time to do all the things we were too busy to do while we were raising our children. Time to have the relationship with our significant other that doesn’t involve that include children, parenting, etc.

Celebrate all the things you’ve accomplished, experienced and move on  to the next phase of life.

I’d love to hear your thought, suggestions and your experiences.

2 Comments

  • Liz D.

    That is what I’m currently struggling with. My youngest son, Conner, will be graduating from HS in 2 years. (youngest of 3 boys) I’ve been a stay at home mom for almost 21 years. I’ve always been the sports mom, mom taxi ,etc What do I do with myself then? I guess I worked myself out of a job huh?

    • Tammy

      A good parent always works themselves out of a job. Way to go Mama!

      Is there anything else you love to do or have dreamed of doing? I know a lot of women that have gone back to school, started a business, took a vacation of a lifetime, etc.

      To start, I’d look at your passions, your dreams, and your hobbies. Write a list of all the things you would like to do. Let me know how it goes!