It’s a little bit of You’ve Got Mail, mixed with Army Wives and Parenthood.
Our relationship has changed so much since we met online in January of 1997. Probably not in the ways you might think.
When I first “met” Dan in an online chatroom, I wasn’t looking for anything. I was really there as more of curiosity about this whole “internet” thing.
I had just got my first real computer and I thought let’s check out this whole America Online and the World Wide Web. I admit my friend Melissa and I both had a lot to drink that day.
We logged in and started to look around at all the chat rooms available. Neither of us had any idea what we were doing. I was quite unimpressed until I saw a chat room named “Fell in love on AOL “
My curiosity was peaked. I had to find out more about this.
After being in there for a while, I encountered this couple Guy and Lisa. They were in love. I remember thinking how in the world can you fall in love with someone you never met. I thought it was hilarious. To be fear, I was a little jaded as I was still dealing with wounds from a previous relationship that ended badly.
After a while of talking with various people, I found him. He was willing to give me as much sarcasm as I was giving him. It turned out he was Guy’s twin brother.
Fast forward to a few days later, I was logging into AOL every chance I could so I could talk to him in a chat room. I refused to acknowledge the fact that I was head over heels in love, as my bestie and roommate, Melissa, pointed out every chance she got.
A few days later, I finally admitted it. I was hopelessly and absolutely in love with this man.
This was before social media and texting. All we had was chatrooms, email, and very large long-distance bills.
Finally, it came to the point where we needed to meet. We both heard horror stories about meeting someone on the internet. We sent pictures to each other and we planned for him to visit me in New Orleans.
I remember the moment I saw him in person like it was yesterday. It was one of those moments that you’ll never forget what you were thinking, the sights and smells.
It was like a scene out of a Hallmark movie, where everything happens in slow motion. I saw him and I knew instantly. He was my soulmate, the man I’d be with for the rest of my life. I didn’t know how/when this would happen.
We had an amazing week together and he went back to Minnesota. As I dropped him off at the airport, I thought that I may never see him again. As I cried my eyes out in my parked car, I made a decision that changed my life. One of us would need to move and if it couldn’t be him, then it was going to be me.
That choice is probably one of the craziest things I’ve done to date. I will make that same choice over and over again.
Today, Dan and I have been married for 21 years and together for almost 23 years. We have 2 kids, 2 dogs, and have moved 10 times, thanks to Dan’s time in the military. We’ve had some great moments and some hard times too over the years. The important thing is that we keep moving forward together.