2018 was a really rough year. I learned a lot the hard way. There were several experiences that should never have happened but I’m grateful that they did.
I find out the truth about a close family member who was truly toxic to my daily life and caused many issues that I was dealing with. These issues were starting to affect my marriage and family life as well as my mental and physical health.
To give you a better perspective, This person was a major source of influence when I was growing up. I turned to him for advice and guidance. He always put me second when it came to his needs and wants.
Last year, he showed his true colors during 2 different arguments. He has a toxic and selfish personality. I finally was able to see what several people have been trying to tell me, including my own grandmother and therapist. Once I realized this truth, I knew I had to remove this person and other people like him from my life. It was a simple decision but not an easy one.
I knew this wasn’t going to be easy, and I’d have to go through quite the journey to overcome the abuse I’d be exposed to for over 40 years.
The journey was much worse than I anticipated but worth it. I had the gamut of emotions: grief, anger, depression, anxiety, and sadness. I had to rely on tactics that I learned after Jeffrey’s passing years ago in therapy. I journaled every day and learned new coping skills on how to deal with what I was experiencing. I learned new terms like narcissism, gaslighting, flying monkeys and gray rock techniques.
Almost a year later, I’m glad for the journey. I’ve lived through it all and I’m a much happier and healthier person. My relationship with my husband is much better as well as with our daughter. I didn’t realize how much toxicity was being brought into our home by 1 person.
Toxicity is no longer allowed in our home. Life is too short to allow that in our lives and our home.
If you have someone like this in your life, you need to remove the toxicity. Don’t let someone treat you like that. I guarantee it is affecting you in a multitude of ways, that you aren’t even aware of.